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Desire arrives as confirmation — the experience of feeling like the version of yourself you most want to be, in the presence of another person. That confirmation can arrive through four channels: Visual (appearance, form), Emotional (connection, relational atmosphere), Tactile (touch, physical presence), or Intellectual (shared sexual understanding, being recognised). Most people have all four active — but in different proportions.
This tool maps your personal gradient across the four channels and shows which ones carry most of the confirmatory weight for you. It also compares your distribution to the culturally produced average, which heavily overweights the visual channel at the expense of the rest.
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Answer each statement on a scale of 1 to 7, where 1 is strongly disagree and 7 is strongly agree. Answer for yourself as you are, not as you think you should be.
This tool is an instrument for personal reflection only. It does not constitute psychological, therapeutic, or clinical advice, and no professional relationship is formed by using it. No data you enter is transmitted anywhere — all computation happens on your device.
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This test is free. In exchange, two quick questions — stored completely anonymously, used only for aggregate research into how desire actually distributes across people. No personal data, no tracking, no way to trace an answer back to you. Both answers are required to see your result.
Your desire gradient
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Your distribution vs the cultural average
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