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Attachment theory describes the symptom — anxious, avoidant, secure. The book describes the mechanism. The anxious person is not deficient; their aspirational sexual self requires continuous confirmation, and they have learned from evidence that the confirmation cannot be trusted to persist. What looks like neediness is actually precision. The avoidant person is not unable to love; closeness has consistently failed to confirm the self they need to feel themselves as. The sensitivity is not the problem. The mismatch is.
This tool maps how acutely you read confirmation signals from a partner, which direction you move when they go quiet, how reliably your history has matched what you needed, and how specifically you need to be seen. It produces a description of your confirmation-seeking architecture — not a category, not a diagnosis, not a thing to fix.
Answer each statement on a scale of 1 to 7, where 1 is strongly disagree and 7 is strongly agree. Answer for yourself as you actually are — not as you think you should be, not as you have been asked to be.
This tool is an instrument for personal reflection only. It does not constitute psychological, therapeutic, or clinical advice, does not produce a clinical diagnosis, and no professional relationship is formed by using it. The output describes patterns for self-understanding, not pathology. It does not replace therapy or professional support. If you are experiencing distress in a relationship or in relation to attachment, please seek support from a qualified professional.
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This profile describes patterns in your confirmation-seeking as information, not as pathology or clinical diagnosis. Research consistently finds that people drawn to structured power-exchange dynamics are no more likely to have psychological difficulties than anyone else, and often report higher relationship satisfaction; sensitivity to confirmation is not a disorder. This tool does not constitute psychological or therapeutic advice, and no professional relationship is formed by using it. It deliberately avoids clinical attachment categories. If this material surfaces significant distress, please seek support from a qualified professional.
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